How Trusting Yourself and Others Equates to Success 

Trust is a key component to any successful relationship in life.   When we’re growing up, we learn about trust from our parents or guardians.  It’s the basis of how we feel supported and safe.  Think about your relationship with your spouse or significant other - it wouldn’t be very strong if you didn't have trust.  Friendships are built on trust.  Communities are built on some aspect of trust.   And yet, so many of us have a complicated relationship with “trust” itself.   

Why is it so hard to trust?  From my perspective, the older I get, the harder it is to put trust into anything.  And the reason it’s hard is because it’s scary thinking about all the ways that trust has come back to bite you in the past.  Sometimes it feels easier to just say “no” to trusting anything, to prevent wounds in the future.   But, what I’ve come to realize is when we say “no” to trust, we’re still hurting ourselves by closing doors to opportunities, relationships, or experiences that could help us grow.  

When you think about it, goal setting has a lot to do with trust.  It requires trust between you and those who you seek feedback from in your community.  It requires trust between mentors and men-tee's.  And most importantly, it requires you to trust yourself—to do the right thing, to hold yourself accountable, and to believe that the goals you have will help you develop into the best version of yourself.   

If we want to achieve more in our lives, we have to learn to trust.  It’s essential to our personal growth and development.  The more trust we put into ourselves and others, the more opportunity and success we’ll find.  

 

Don’t Quit: Creating Willpower to Finish What You Start

Sometimes, you just feel stuck.  Getting discouraged from time to time is completely normal.  Everyone goes through phases where it seems like instead of moving forward, they're running in place.   

  These feelings should go away, right?  Most likely, yes, the frustrations and the roadblocks will fade as you learn to work through them, and you’ll pick up where you left off.  But what if they don’t?   

Don’t be afraid to ask for help.  This is where your community comes in, and why it’s so important to have a network that you can rely on.  Reach out to someone in your network to talk about the struggles you are facing, and you might find the answer you’re looking for.  If all else fails, talking about your experience, what you’re going through, and getting it out in the open could be all you need to continue moving in the right direction.   

Don’t quit.  No matter how frustrated or annoyed you get, don’t be that person who starts something and leaves it unfinished.  If you find the need to re-energize, take a break.  Stop and reflect on the situation and adjust your mindset before you circle back and face your challenge.   Remember that the only way we can grow is through experiences we have - and, not all experiences are good or easy.  It’s the hard and challenging times that define who we are.   

The only thing getting in the way of achieving your goals is your own self-doubt.  But, with hard work and commitment, you truly can accomplish anything that you set your mind to.   Once you do break through barriers and come out on the other side, you’ll have identified some invaluable “lessons learned” that will benefit you going forward.  

What exactly is “development”?  Why should it matter to you?

Development means a lot of things to many different people.  There are plenty of technical definitions of development, however, to understand what it truly means, take some time to reflect on the concept.  Some words that come to my mind when I think of development are:  growth, learning, and advancement.  It's all about continuous improvement — whether its personal or professional growth, learning something about yourself (and learning from others), or advancing and moving your life forward.  

So.. why?  Why is development important?  Why does it matter?  The better question to ask yourself is:  if you don’t focus on your development, what is it exactly that you are doing?  Are you really making the best use of your time?   While there are countless reasons why development matters, here is our list of top 3 reasons why it should be a priority: 

  • To better yourself — Isn’t this something everyone would like to do?  Creating better versions of ourselves not only helps us in our own lives, but it has an impact on those around us, too.  If everyone around you has goals, inspirations, hopes, and dreams - that is contagious.  Be that person who influences others.
  • To move forward — The worst thing anyone could do in life is settle… for anything.  Being stagnant will get you nowhere.  There will always be difficult times and obstacles that get in the way of what we want, but it’s important to never lose sight of what you’re working for, regardless of what gets in the way.  The key is to learn how to jump through those hurdles and come out on top.  
  • To find your purpose — Everyone wants to find their purpose in life.  How else will you do this if you’re not moving forward and developing yourself?  One thing is certain - it won’t find you on it’s own - you have to look for it.  Don’t be satisfied with anything that is mediocre - strive to find who it is that you were meant to be.  You owe it to yourself, and to those around you.